A Letter to My White Ignatian Family


JVC has given me the opportunity to share my experiences as I move through my year in the program. As a young, black woman who once held my Catholic identity incredibly close, I feel compelled to hold the Catholic community accountable for the ways they break my heart, and the hearts of those who look like me.

The following reflection was originally published on the Ignatian Solidarity Network website, via Voices for Justice.

Dear You,

Writing about race scares me. I’m intimidated by the misconception that my words represent the experience of an entire race of people. I know they don’t. But I also know that some people will assume that they do. You are white. So perhaps this does not resonate with you. I believe that one must write anyways, though. And my objective is simple: I once heard that “justice is the minimum of love.” So I suppose I am challenging you, as a person of the Ignatian family, to not speak of love until you can first work for justice.

I’m a 23-year-old woman who identifies as black, working as a Jesuit Volunteer in St. Louis. But I’ve never thought much about race. Until now. Until JVC. Until I found myself in white spaces that I didn’t expect to be white.

But perhaps before speaking about these white spaces, it’s vital to tell you about the ones that have shaped me: I grew up in the suburbs an hour east of Los Angeles. I did not have a teacher who identified as a person of color until high school. I was a parishioner at an upper-middle class Catholic Church with upper-middle class white people. Almost all of my best friends were white. I have grown accustomed to white spaces. To being black in white spaces. I’m not much of a dancer, but I’ve learned to move within these spaces with such fluidity that, sometimes, I think even I forgot I was black. I am a young black woman who never learned what it meant to be black. Rather, I learned what it meant to not be white – and now realize that every space, conceptually, was built around my relationship to whiteness.

Perhaps it changed with Trayvon, when I was studying abroad in Oxford and could not bring myself to leave my dorm because of the weight of that acquittal. The weight of a hoodie. The weight of my blackness. Or maybe it was Mike Brown. The non-indictment. Sitting on my parents’ couch, processing the message: It was okay for a police officer to murder a child. As long as he was black. And I felt that weight, that paralysis, all over again. I felt my black body.

A month later, I applied to JVC. And in its talk of social justice, I expected to find people who looked like me. To enter spaces that were different, uncomfortable, and would challenge me to think about race. My race. And then they weren’t. I was in the same white spaces. With white JVC staff and white Jesuit Volunteers and white coworkers at my placement. I realized that my challenge would not be navigating spaces of color while beginning to understand my blackness, but instead, to dance amidst these white spaces in a different way. My challenge was to wake up, even before I fully understood my space in the world as a black woman.

I’ve found that in these spaces, I have been looked upon as a voice for the black community – even as I continue to struggle to be worthy of such. I am black. But I am not yet the black woman I want to be. Still, I’ve been asked: What do you need from us? What can we do?

I’ve answered the questions because, so often, it feels like my job – even though I’ve been reminded this year that it is not. Ta-Nehisi writes, “We are captured [and] we ultimately cannot save ourselves.” The ultimate hope of our movement rests with those who perpetuate the legacy of our captors – intentionally or otherwise. It rests on the stirring of white people. Though I recognize that changing you is not my responsibility, I also recognize the resonance of the black voice. Martin’s. Ta-Nehisi’s. And perhaps even my own. It is not my job to speak. But, perhaps if I speak to you and you listen – there will one day be a generation of black children who don’t have to.

I’ve met white people in St. Louis who are far more adept at discussing racial justice than I am. Those same people are in your midst. I challenge you to find them. Ask them where they started. Move. Walk. March. Read a book. Watch a documentary. Have a difficult conversation. Ask where you stand in the destruction of people who look like me. Choose to risk your body — in the way the man you follow sacrificed his own. Our black bodies are at risk for simply existing. We have no choice. But you do. And in your choice, there is power.

One day you’ll find yourself in the fire of discomfort with a person of color. You’ll have made a mistake. Said something stupid. Insensitive. Ignorant. And you’ll want to run from the fire. Perhaps to extinguish it with “I’m sorry,” or “That’s not what I meant.” But I’m going to ask you to sit there. Inhale the discomfort. Allow her to tell you why what you did or said was painful, devastating, traumatic. Do not try to extinguish her voice.

Because that is the only way you will learn: By letting the fire swallow your ignorance and fear and complacence. And, in that, you’ll discover that this work burns. Perpetually.

But you’ve asked the questions. And I hope you’ll choose to burn until you find your answers.

In the questions and the fire,



6 thoughts on “A Letter to My White Ignatian Family

  1. I was introduced to this reflection through a friend’s facebook post that shared the version from the Ignatian Solidarity website. From there, I also read your “On Harry Potter and Privilege” reflection, and then I just had to find some way to connect with you and tell you how beautiful, affirming, and eloquent your writing is. As 1 of only 7 PoC (I identify as Vietnamese) in a group of 70+ East Coast JVs right now, my experience in JVC has been one heck of a roller-coaster. Your words resonate with me so much, and I would love to talk and get to know you more if possible!

  2. This is incredible. Your courage here. Your vulnerability. Your impassioned call to action of white folks like me. You’re not in an easy position, but I admire the way you’re using it as flint and steel to start something, to tell your truth. Thank you. I gotta subscribe to this blog now.

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